"How Do I Survive?"

On the phone the other day with a client, he asked me, "Terry, How do I survive?"

I rattled off an answer*...
...but his question is haunting me.
Many of us who are "north of 50" years of age are feeling somewhat fragile these days, like the steamrollers of our time are going to mow us down at any moment.
What would you tell a client or a friend if they asked you, How do I survive?
*The answer I gave my client included the following four points:
Don't stop networking after you land the job you are seeking. Keep your network alive and fresh. Stay in touch with people. You never know when you may need to leverage these relationships again.
Stay healthy. You aren't getting any younger. Find ways to stay active and fit. Challenge your body and your mind.
Stay current in your field. Be learning all the time. Read. Take courses. Watch TED talks. Expand your mind.

Reconnect to your purpose.
Later, some additional thoughts surfaced:

Build community. Become many by …

Open Your Eyes

We all have blind spots. Trouble is, by definition, we are blind to them. Unless someone fills us in, we go along oblivious.

One piece of wisdom that I came across years ago resurfaced the other day in my twitterfeed...and it reminded me of an important life lesson.

The wisdom is a quote often attributed to Albert Einstein:

"The definition of insanity is...doing the same thing over and over again and expecting different results"

The life lesson for me is to examine the insanity in myself. What am I doing over and over again that is NOT producing the results I want out of Life?"

I shared the Einstein quote with a friend recently after he shared his frustration that he wasn't getting any traction toward his career goals.

The second I hit the Send button, I stopped and looked at myself.

Could this be my blind spot as well?  Am I repeating well-worn routines that are keeping me in old ruts?

As I am writing this post in early January, the time of year for new ideas and ne…

3 Words for a New Year

At this time of year, I often recall the "3 Word Exercise" that I learned from blogger Chris Brogan.

In a nutshell, he recommends visioning the new year ahead and letting 3 words filter out of the "big story" you have in mind.
As I sit here and envision my "big story" for 2019...three words that are percolating up for me are...
Epiphany (as in "shine forth")
I'll be pondering the significance of these words and write about them in the new year.

What are your 3 words for 2019?

Posted by Terrence Seamon on New Year's Eve December 31, 2018

Dark and Quiet

"Darkness reveals the heavenly lights."

For the past several years, a group of friends has gathered in December for the celebration of the Winter solstice. One of the group, a Franciscan sister, prepares a short and simple prayer for us to follow as we stand around a fire in the night.

This year, she asked us to reflect on the meanings we have for darkness.

After a few initial responses that brought out the "dark side" of darkness, someone said, "When it's dark, the stars come out."

We all oo-ed and ah-ed at that reflection and we immediately looked upward. It had been a cloudy day, but the bright moon flashed through the rapidly flying clouds.

Suddenly one of our group pointed and said, "Look a star!"

Filled with renewed animation, this triggered more reflections on darkness including one about growth. The individual said, "In darkness, seeds lay dormant in the ground, away from the light, until the seasons change and they begin to ger…

The Soul of a Company

There are organizations out there that are doing much more than making a profit and giving a return to shareholders. Some realize that they are providing jobs. Some realize that they are part of a community. 
Some realize that they are giving hope to those who have lost much in life.
There is a small enterprise in west Los Angeles called Timothy J Candles. They make specialty candles for special occasions and customers.
In this short video, Tim Sullivan, the founder of the company, lets all of us know what he and his firm believe in.
His is a company with soul.
What is it that keeps other companies from having a soul like this?

Consultant Kenny Moore once pointed out that the word "company" comes from "sharing bread together."

He wrote: "At its core, company is about meaning, purpose and mutual support. Many of today’s businesses had their origins around like-minded individuals coming
together to support and nurture each other in starting a labor of love."

That ga…

Follow your Internal Guidance System

Built into you is an internal guidance system that shows you the way home. All you need to do is heed the voice.”
I like that sentence from writer Neale Donald Walshe.
"Home" is You.
I think I am called to help people (myself and others) to 'tune into' it.
There are many methods for such attunement. One is the Holland Theory of Careers.
Some of you may be familiar with the Career Types theory developed by John Holland. It is used extensively in career counseling work, in educational settings, in industry, and in classifying schemes such as the federal government's Dictionary of Occupational Titles.
In a nutshell, Holland developed a system with six types:  RIASEC (Realistic, Investigative, Artistic, Social, Enterprising, and Conventional).  He found that every career has a code (i.e. a 3 letter combo such as CRS), and every person has a code as well. When the Person and the Career codes match (or come close) there is a recipe for success (meaning tangible succes…

Never Assume

"Never assume that the next guy knows what he is doing much less why."

Dave Davidson was one of my professors at Rutgers circa 1973. His specialty was Information Systems Theory.  
Amidst an interesting and diverse Department of Communication faculty, Dave was one of the more memorable professors that I met, equally stimulating and irritating.
His trademark was his pipe which he smoked all the time, even while teaching his classes. And it would not be unusual for his small group discussions to be held at Olde Queens Tavern.
As a teacher, Dave' style was to say something provocative and then take a deep puff on his pipe and gaze at us through his thick glasses, waiting for us to jump into the discussion. It never took long for an animated exchange to begin.
One of his statements has stuck with me in the 45 years since then. I call it the Dave Davidson Theorem:  
"Never assume that the next guy knows what he is doing much less why."
I think Dave was trying to prov…