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Passing It On

Who passed it on to you? One of the life lessons I have pondered is how much of Who I Am is because of others and what they have passed on to me. Throughout my life there have been many people who have given me the gift of their knowledge, their values, and their spirit. My parents for example. My mom had so many sayings that I still use in my work with clients. My dad's aggressive moxie has helped me take the risks I have needed to take. They and others have been my mentors. I like the term mentor even though the relationship may not have been framed as such. A mentor is an experienced, and trusted adviser. A mentor is thinking about the mentee's future and provides guidance, drawing upon the well of their own lived experience. How about you? Do you know how many lives you have touched and enhanced in some way? Maybe now is the time of your life to be thinking about this, about your legacy. I have some clients who have reached a place in their journeys where they are tired o…

The Path is You

Some of the clients I've been working with are feeling like their lives are out of control. They have been through downsizings, and are now "doing more with less." Some said they are anxious and overwhelmed, feeling like they are drowning. Some have just about given up on hope. For others, stress is high, nerves are on edge, and tempers are rising. Some even said that their personal and family life is starting to suffer. They are trying to find their pathways through chaos. Two of my favorite bloggers, Dick Richards and Curt Rosengren, have offered some wisdom about finding your pathway. At his blog Riding on Dragons, Dick Richards muses about the "pull" of pathways: "The question–why am I attracted to images of pathways?–is yet another pathway that leads to an uncertain destination and so attracts me in the same way that I am attracted to the pathways in these photos. It seems that certain phenomena, be they photographic images or unanswered questions, dr…

Getting Done What Needs Doing

You may have heard the saying "It is easier to ask forgiveness than it is to beg for permission." I learned it early in my career when I was a Training consultant working in a nuclear power plant. Many of the people I interacted with had come from the Navy. Only recently however have I learned that Rear Admiral Grace Murray Hopper expressed it more fully: "If it is a good idea, go ahead and do it. It is much easier to apologize than to get permission." My colleague in organizational consulting Fred Nickols, who is a retired Navy man, confirmed that Hopper's dictum was well known. According to Fred: "I'm familiar with Grace Hopper's quote; it was quite popular in my day. She was a four-striper then. (It) makes sense if you like taking the initiative and getting done what needs doing." Over the course of my career, I have gotten into trouble for "going ahead and doing" things that needed done. But I wouldn't have done it any other …